Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim
Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu
Oh Allah! Guide My Heart.
You know how most parents emphasized on academy education rather than the knowledge of the heart. I don't say that the 'brain' knowledge is not important. But we have to balance our knowledge with the 'heart' knowledge. At the end of the day it is not the 'brain' knowledge that only full filling our life but the 'heart' knowledge also.
Think about that.
The 'heart' knowledge that I am referring to is educating the heart with good character quality, as we call it 'adab' or manner. Being a mother, we are responsible to ensure that our children are developing these qualities including honesty, kindness, integrity, unselfishness, being a willing and diligent worker, doing chores without being told, reaching out and helping others, learning conversational skills and making and keeping friends.
Our children need to know that the way they behave is the way they are treated. The children need to know the purpose of this rule that is to create order. They need to know that if they behave well to other, they will earn good treatment from other. On the other hand if they behave rudely, nobody wants to make friend with them.
I am so upset when parents complaining that they can't make their children listen to them. May be this is the good time that parents wake up and start figure it up whether their children has been equip with these 'heart' knowledge. How would you expect your child developing a warm and close friendship when they are not taught how to do it? I am sure no mothers want to see their children lead to loneliness, depression and other emotional problems because they don't know how to behave. You have to teach your child.
When we bought something for example a camera, it would come with an instruction or manual, right? Usually we act like we know how to use it and skipped the setting as instructed in the manual. When we fail to produce good pictures, we blame the manufacturer at least.
Our life is exactly like the example I gave above. We forgot that we human came with special manual. In order to function properly we should referring back to our manual. If we are acting like we know everything and ignoring the manual, we are planning for a disaster. This is what we can do to educate our children with the good characters quality. Insha Allah, we go back to our manual, the Qur'an and the Hadith.