In the name of Allah; the entirely merciful; the especially merciful - بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَـٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ

Monday, 28 April 2008

Casting and fitting Muja's ankle-foot orthoses, AFOs

Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim
Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu

Muja, her father and me went to see Andrew, an Orthopedic Surgeon at Orthotic Solutions for fitting Muja ankle-foot orthoses, AFOs. At today's appointment adjustment of the straps and trimming to fit her legs were made. We waited for 15 minutes for him to do any modification. Alhamdulillah Muja was relaxed when fitting done so it was easy putting them on her legs.



We will come back in two weeks to review for any modification. Meanwhile we have to keep on eye of any pain or skin marks that do not disappear within half an hour or develops blisters.

Early this month we came here for casting. Alhamdulillah the casting went well. Her father held her while the Orthopedic Surgeon did the casting with long plaster bandage around the leg. We waited for 5 minutes until it sets, then took it off. Then the same thing was done to her other leg. The process of making it takes 2 to 3 weeks.

Muja wears AFOs since she was one year old. Her first AFOs was organised by Nadine, one of PMH excellence physiotherapist and funded through the Princess Margerate Hospital. She had her casting at PMH Orthotic Department. I remember we had a bad and difficult time for the casting because she wont let us held her legs.

When she was 2 and half she has her second AFOs, but this time was funded through The Center for Cerebral Palsy. The casting and the fitting were done at the center as well. Although we got the fund through the center this time, the casting and fitting were done at Orthotic Solutions.

When I made her next appointment for review, I signed the invoice to TCCP. My eyes could not believed at the amount written there for $728.00. Well, my special needs child needs special people to custom made her foot wear for a special price funded by special ordinary kind and generous people to The Center of Cerebral Palsy. I urge all of us to support the center so that special needs people have opportunity. The link for donation is here. By your donation you can help my daughter and also other children and adults living with Cerebral Palsy.

Sunday, 27 April 2008

Friday, 18 April 2008

Suggestions for Waking up for Fajr!

Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim
Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu


Author Unknown

Bismillahi ArRahman ArRaheem. Most surely all praise belongs to Allah, we praise Him and we seek His Aid and Forgiveness. We seek refuge in Allaah from the evils of our souls and from the evils of our actions. Whomsoever Allaah guides there is none to misguides and whomsever He misguides their is none to guide. I send prayers and blessing upon our leader Muhammed with the best of prayers and the most complete submission.

One of the ill-seeming phenomena of today is the growing number of Muslims who deliberately shun Fajr prayer in congregation and only perform it at times other than its lawful time (or who don't perform it at all!)

Our ancestors not very long ago used to make a point of going to bed early, to lock their doors after Ishaa prayer and to make their dinner light so as to be able to wake up for Fajr prayer in an energetic state. That is why they led a happy, peaceful and healthy life experiencing the real taste of life.

**The following are attempts therefore to suggest ways which may be of help in inducing us to wake up for Fajr Prayer (Insha'Allah) :

ONE: To make sure to go to bed early since the Prophet (saws)used to discourage sleep before performing Ishaa prayer and especially engaging in conversation after it. Certain cases were accepted; Imam Nawawi, may Allaah have mercy upon him says:

The reason why conversation after Isha is discouraged is the fear lest it leads to staying awake for long, which might induce drowsiness and difficulty with observing night prayers or Fajr prayer in their permitted, preferred or best times. However, as to the useful verbal activities, such as the pursuit of knowledge, listening to the wise tales of righteous people, talking to one's guest or bride, or members of one's family for the sake of company, interacting with travellers with a view to protect themselves and their goods, embarking on talks designed to conciliate between people or intercede before them in a good cause or to enjoin good and forbid evil and admonish people by pointing to a beneficial course of action to follow ETC... there are no such restrictions.

TWO: To be assiduous in observing the Aadaab [good manners prescribed in Islam] as to what to do before sleep such as making Du'aa [supplication] , bringing one's palms together, very mildly spitting (blowing) into them and reciting the last three surah's of the Qur'aan into them and then wiping them over one's face, head and body, being physically and religiously pure and performing a two rakah voluntary prayer after wudhoo. A muslim has to ask his wife, parents, relatives or neighbours to help waking him up. Once waken up, he should not linger lazily for long in bed, lest he acquires the vices of the hypocrites who come to prayer showing ample signs of laziness and lack of enthusiasm.

THREE: To fill one's heart with faith and good deeds. Once faith is alive in the heart, it induces the person to do good deeds and strive unremittingly hard. Faith is like a tree which only yields good fruit when irrigated from the streamlets of good deeds, thus bringing about an improvement both in personal conduct and at the interactional level with society at large. The lack of such streamlets proportionately causes faith to wither and wilt. The heart is highly sensitive to external hardening stimuli. You should therefore protect your heart from such external allurements.

FOUR: To keep away from Ma'aasi [acts of disobedience to Allah] by protecting the eyes, the tongue, the hearing and all the senses from indulging in the perception of objects that Allah has made unlawful for us. As an alternative, one should concern himself with matters pertaining to the worship of Allaah, such as devoting one's sight to the reading of Allaah's Book, meditating over the creatures that Allaah has created in this universe, reading books of knowledge etc.

One member of the rightly guided early generations was asked about the reason why people found it difficult to uphold voluntary prayers at night. He answered: "Your sins have shackled you". No doubt sins can be a major cause for a persons inability to enjoy the blessings of piety. As Imaam Ibn ul-Qayyim said, sins are wounds and some wounds can be fatal.

FIVE: To bear in mind the great reward for attending Fajr prayer in congregation on time, and the strong rebuke for him who fails to observe it and to satisfy its conditions. Uthmaan ibn 'Affaan related: I heard Allah's Messenger (sallallaahu- alaihi-wasallam) say: "He who prays Ishaa in Jamaa'ah [congregation] is as if he has prayed for half the night . As to him who (also) prays Fajr in congregation, it is as if he has prayed all night." [narrated by Maalik and the wording is that of Muslim who also reported it].

Similarly, Bukhaaree and Muslim and An-Nasaaee related on the authority of Ibn Mas'ud (radiallaahu- anhu) that he said: The case of a man who slept all the night up to sunrise (without waking up for Fajr) was related to the Prophet (sallallaahu- alaihi-wasallam) whereupon he said: "That was a man in whose ear Shaytaan has urinated", or he said "in both his ears". The urinating is literally true, as Imaam Qurtubi says, since Shaytaan urinates and has sexual intercourse and procreates in a manner that Allah alone knows (1).

SIX: To realise the bad effects resulting from one's failure to pray Fajr, such as the melancholic and depressive state of mind and the loss of many religious and worldly benefits, and the good effects resulting from managing to perform it.

In this respect the Prophet (saws) said: "Shaytaan ties three knots on the crown of any one of you in your sleep. He says upon each knot that he ties: "You have a long night before you, therefore sleep". But if you wake up and mention Allah, Most Exalted in remembrance one knot will be untied. If you then make ablution another knot will be undone. If you then proceed to pray the last knot will be disentangled. Thus, you will feel in the morning energetic and in good spirits. Otherwise you will feel in a despicable state, lazy". [narrated by Maalik, Bukhaaree, Muslim and Abu Dawood]

The time following Fajr prayer is full of goodness and blessings. At-Tirmidhee narrated upon the authority of Al Ghamdi that the Prophet (saws) said: "O Allah bless my Ummah in its early rising!" and whenever he dispatched an expedition or army he sent them early at the beginning of the day. Sakhr was a merchant who always sent his merchandise early in morning thus, becoming wealthy (2). That is why we find the craftsmen and traders are particular about making good use of this time. Those who sleep up to the late morning have denied themselves the blessings of this early hour.

There are many benefits to the health derived from waking up for Fajr prayer. For instance, the highest proportion of ozone gas (O3) in the atmosphere is registered at dawn. It then gradually fades away until comlplete disappearance by sunrise. This gas has a very beneficial effect on the nervous system as it vivifies the brain and energizes the muscles such that when a person inhales the beautiful breeze of the dawn, known as (the) SABA (wind), he will experience a pleasure that is unparalleled at any other time of the day or night (3).

SEVEN: To lose no time to categorically clear yourself from the stigma of hypocrisy. Because of the difficulty of waking for this time, praying Fajr in congregation provides evidence that a person has firm faith and is free from hypocrisy. That is why in a hadeeth narrated by Bukhaaree and Muslim, the Prophet (saws) said: "Indeed, the most difficult of prayers to bear, for the hypocrites, are Ishaa [night] and Fajr prayers. If only they knew what they are missing , they would sooner come, even if crawling on their knees".

Ibn Umar (raa) said "When we find a man missing from the Ishaa and Fajr prayers we nurture suspicions about him" (4).

If you want a criterion for evaluating a person's degree of faith and truthfulness monitor his observance of Fajr prayer. If he passes the test, that should be taken as a sign indicating the strength of his Eeman [belief, faith]. Let us then testify to his truthfulness since he managed to achieve the greatest victory over himself and to be superior to the pleasure of sleeping in bed.

How is it then that he who indulges in sleep and misses prayer should conceivably feel comfortable while people are delighting in the mosques in the company of the Qur'aan and listening raptuously to Allaah's message.

These are a few suggestions to help you wake up for Fajr prayer. May Allah make them useful. Glory be to Allah, Most Exalted over any false attributions and thanks be to Allah, the Lord of all Beings.

References

1. Fath-ul-Baari 3/28

2. Saheeh Sunan at-Tirmidhee

3. "With Medicine in the Noble Qur'aan" p.108 by Abdul-Hameed Dayyaab

4. Saheeh at-Targheeb wat-Tarheeb no.169

Wednesday, 16 April 2008

How I get ACROD parking permit?

Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim
Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu

Almost everyday I receive Muja's appointment letter. Sometime it is for her appointment at Princess Margerate Hospital. If it is not her physio, speech and OT appointments from The Center for Cerebral Palsy then it can be her hearing appointment from the Australia Hearing.

Today, I received one particular envelope which is not familiar. Usually I can tell where the letter come from because the label on the envelope. Anyway I opened it. I found out that it was a letter from ACROD Parking Program. It returned too soon, I thought. I sent the application just few day ago. It said that the process is 2 week time.

A week ago, when Muja was not well, I took her to see our family doctor at Thornlie Medical Center. I brought the printed application form for the ACROD parking permit which I download from here to the doctor to be completed. Few days after that I made a money order at Australian Post for the administration fee of the application, before I sent it by post.

Why I need this permit? Well I need a wide parking bay to transfer Muja in and out of the car because she is, almost 4 years old, unable to walk and requires mobility aid.

We were thinking of buying her a wheelchair but financially we can't afford it at this stage. So Muja is using normal stroller which we bought at TARGET few months ago because her old pram was not moving properly. We can attached Muja custom made inset on that stroller to support her sitting position.

That was a short story how easy I get the ACROD Parking Permit.

Thursday, 10 April 2008

Ways to obtain the Love of Allah

Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim
Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu


The great scholar Ibn Al-Qayyim al-Jawziyyah is often referred to as the ‘Imam of the Hearts’. Reading and reflecting on his treatise on the ways that bring about the love of Allah, it isn’t hard to see why…

One: Recitation of the Qur'an with reflection and understanding of its meanings and what is intended by it, as one reflects over a book which he has memorised and which he expounds so that he may understand what its author intends from him.

Two: Getting closer to Allah with the superogatory acts of worship, after the obligatory ones, for they will take him to another level of love that comes after love.

Three: Constant remembrance in every circumstance by the tongue, the heart, the actions and (one's) condition, so a person's share of love is in accordance with his share of this remembrance.

Four: Preferring His love over your own when desires overcome you and climbing to reach His love, even if the ascent is difficult.

Five: The heart's comprehension of His Names and Attributes, witnessing them and having knowledge of them, to immerse himself in the garden of this knowledge and its fundamental pillars. Whoever knows Allah by His Names, Attributes and Actions, will, no doubt, love Him.

Six: Witnessing His generosity, His benevolence, His favours and blessings, both hidden and open, for these things all call to His love.

Seven: And this is the most amazing of all: the heart's total defeat and humility in front of Allah, the Most High, and there are no other words and considerations which give expression to this meaning.

Eight: Being alone in the time of the Descent of Allah (last third of the night) for having private conversations with Him, reciting His Words, investigating the heart, displaying the manners of servitude whilst in front of Him and then to seal all
of that with seeking forgiveness and repentance.

Nine: Sitting with the truthful lovers (of Allah) and gathering the good fruits (arising) from their speech, just as one picks out the best of fruits, and that you
do not speak except when the benefit of the speech prevails and when you know that there is a betterment for you and benefit for others in it.

Ten: Keeping distant from everything that comes between the heart and Allah, the Mighty and Majestic.

May Allah SWT make us of those who strive to love Him and are loved by Him, ameen.

Abridged and excerpted from Madaarijus-Saalikee n from the book The Path to Guidance [pgs.56-60], published by Salafi Publications.

Tuesday, 1 April 2008

Day surgery for Botox injection.

Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim
Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu

Today was Muja's fourth Botox injection for her inside and back tight muscles. I fed Muja at 7:00 am. She required to fast for the anesthetic. She can only drink water until 11:00 am after the 7:00 am feeding .

Usually it is hard to find parking at PMH. Alhamdulillah, we found a parking at Murry Street, which is close to the hospital. Two days ago her doctor from respiratory department called and informed me that her prescription for Melatonin was ready to be pick up at the pharmacy. I went straight to the pharmacy to get her medicine, Melatonin. I did not have to wait long but was annoyed by queue jumper, who went in front of me like I was not in the queue. Well sometime people can be bad-mannered.

From the pharmacy we went to admission office at around 10 am for admission. Previously the injection was done at Ward 5A, but today I was told to go to Same Day Surgery Ward 6A. Muja was asleep all this time, so the nurse who did the pre examination did not want to wake her up for weighing. Then the anesthetist came with few questions and explained the procedures. It sound scary to me and I felt worried when she told me the I can accompany Muja to the theater and leave her after she put under sleep.

The ward was full, so the nurse suggested me to wait at the Friendship Room. That was fine with me and the room is comfortable then the ward. I sat on the two seated sofa reading a magazine and didn't realised that I fell asleep when Muja's pediatrist came and woke me up. She asked me to sigh a paper before going to the theater.

It was 2:30 pm, when we were in the theater. Alhamdulillah, Muja went straight to sleep after given the gas. The hardest was to leave her in the room where 7 people was in there doing what I have no idea if you know what I mean. Outside a volunteer was waiting to take me to the Friendship Room.

In the Friendship Room I realised, everyone who entered the room was asked by the volunteer for tea or coffee but not me. They were also given biscuit with it. I tried to be positive and thought maybe they forgot to ask me. But I can't denied my feeling like being racist by this volunteers. May be I was wrong!

Alhamdulillah, at 3:00 pm I was taken to Muja in recovery room. She was screaming and I thought what they have done to her in the theater. She kept crying until we got in the ward. Alhamdulillah, she stopped when I picked her up and gave her a cuddle. In the ward I felt again being racist. Every child was asked for some treat but not my Muja. I thought may be she has nasogastric tube so they wont asked her, but a lease they can offer her some juice.

We left the hospital at 4:00 pm. Alhamdulillah my day was over with some disappointment about how some people treat me and Muja. May Allah grant me patience for all the hardships, Ameen.