In the name of Allah; the entirely merciful; the especially merciful - بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَـٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ

Thursday, 30 January 2014

Lonely: Connecting with the Muslim community.

N: I'm asking you a question - You need to tell me Yes or No - Go to categories -  feelings

Mujhee: not, don't can't, feel, love -No
happy, embarresed, hate - No
worried, confused - No
angry, mad, grumpy, frustrated, sad - No
scared/frightened, upset, jealous - No
proud, lonely - Yes
proud -No
lonely - Yes

N: chat words - help

Mujhee: I want (do an activity) - outside activities - garden

N: I'm asking you a question - What do you think? (garden)

Mujhee: I like this - nice


The other day when Mujhee's sister, N, asked her about her feelings, she told her that she was lonely. N asked how she can help her. Mujhee said that she can help her by taking her to the garden. N took her to the backyard and asked her what she thinks. She thought that it was nice.Sometime a simple thing you do makes a big difference in other people's life. Masha Allah, I'm so proud of you, N, for your unconditional love and care for Mujhee.

I'm so glad and thankful that Mujhee has sisters, family and friends who value and care for her feelings and are also willing to help her in anyway possible. There are some barriers to break but it is possible to open the door of possibility. I'm also grateful for PODD communication book, without it Mujhee's voice could never be heard.

Although it made me upset to know that she was lonely, it helps me to understand her better. It was very wrong for us to think that just because she can't take care of herself, can't communicate verbally and is bound in the wheelchair, she has no feelings and needs. I think many people don't value her because they think she has nothing to say.

The way that people with disabilities are treated in this world is shameful and disgusting because we don't have time to understand how we can help them. We need to be aware of their stories so we can break the barrier and open the doors to inclusive in the mainstream society  .

It happens that the Muslim Youth Group called the Gemstones is finding new members for this year so I decided to ask them if Mujhee can join in so she won't feel left out or alone. Alhamdulillah she got accepted so she could attend the group once every month. Alhamdulillah, I am so thankful that the group are very positive and more than willing to include her. I'm so excited for her and in sha Allah it will give a lot of benefit to her and the group.

Without a doubt, I can see that someone like Mujhee can be very lonely but there are ways to help her like joining the youth group. At the beggining maybe the group don't feel the connection with her because not many of them understand her. Understanding someone takes time. Understanding someone who has multiple and complex support needs like Mujhee usually take longer time. I hope the group will give their time to get to know her better so they could feel the connection.

I believe the equality in all people regardless of their limitation. As human being we all have our limits whether we are a people of disability or not. So Mujhee deserve no less when you realize that we have more in common then any dividing differences.

In sha Allah, Mujhee just need a bit of your TIME to understand her otherwise she could feel lonely and deeply excluded from the society. Is a bit of your time is too much to ask?

Monday, 20 January 2014

My 2014 list to do



Well-being. Connection. Kindness.

These are my goals in three words. With these words in sha Allah, it will be easier for me to focus on my goals everyday in my dua, when I pray to Al Mujeeb, The Responder to Prayer.

Ok, bear with me for a bit, while I dream of what I am going to do this year, in sha Allah.


In sha Allah, I will do it. It's not what I can do but what Allah can do for me.


Love
Mujhee.

Sunday, 19 January 2014

Aromatheraphy Blends: Using your sense of smelling for a better well being

Sensory system is a part of nervous system responsible for sensory processing information. Vision, hearing, touch, taste and smell are including in our complex sensory system. Olfaction is the sense of smell.  Sense of smell can effect emotional behaviour. Different scents can stimulate the brain and trigger the pictures and the feeling associated with that particular smell. We all know how the smells of food can stimulate appetite. I cannot smell rendang tok without thinking about my mother who always cook it as a special treat for Hari Raya or Eid.

When I did skin care workshop on how to make natural skin care products a while ago I learned aromatherapy. In natural skin care product essential oils are used instead of fragrance oils just because the essential oils are natural while the fragrance oils are synthetic. Although fragrance oils are cheaper than essential oils they are artificially created that contain artificially substance. Essential oils are natural chemicals that are extracted from plants and contains therapeutic benefits.

In aromatherapy, essential oils are used for therapeutic purpose. Some essential oils are used to stimulate or relax the brain frequency. When scents are inhaled, the smell travels into lymbic system, which is a part of brain that controls mood. When lymbic system is stimulated, endorphins are released into your blood stream making your mood lifted and leaving you in the state of calm.

Stress can have negative impact on immune system. It stop our body ability to protect disease. Aromatherapy can boost the immune system by the release of endorphins or mood elevating substances.

Studied has found that good smells lower stress and regulates mood and emotional. The smelling of lavender essential oil calms the nervous system and relaxes the body for better sleep. Click here to read mere about the study.

Citrus essential oils like sweet orange, bergamot, neroli, lemon, petitgrain and grapefruit have an uplifting smells that is helpful for reducing depression and elevate your everyday.

These are the essential oils that I blends and we use at home. Most of these blends I mixed them for Mujhee's aromatheraphy like the Miraculous Mujhee and Mujhee's Muscle Relief.


Miraculous Mujhee

This blend is a special blend to guide an extraordinary, miraculous and outstanding into life. It creates special unimaginable moment that we carry in our hearts and exceptional way to honour others that touch our life.


  • Frankincense
  • Patchouli, 
  • Sandalwood
  • Vetiver

Relaxation Blend

This blend slow brain wave patterns to melt away stress, tension and anxiety. It produce a state of relaxation, calm and peaceful. We use it in the bath, spray it in the car and on the linen before sleeping time to get the children ready for bed.

  • Lavender
  • Sandalwood
  • Bergamot.

Brain Power

This blend can stimulate your brain capability to activate concentration on work and study. We used it when doing therapy sessions with Mujhee and when the children are doing their homework and studying during examination.

  • Lemon myrtle
  • Peppermint
  • Geranium.

Prayer Blend

This blend can be use to help us to see clearly and pay particular attention to your prayer and enhance spiritual. We put 2 to 3 drops on the prayer matt.

  • Frankincense
  • Nutmeg
  • Sweet orange

Energy Blend

We use this blend when we need some motivation to get through the day that wasn't best and keep you moving forward with smiles.

  • Sweet orange
  • Cinnamon
  • Patchouli

Peaceful Sleep

This blend has a calming blend to aid go to sleep and to stay asleep longer.

  • Clary sage
  • Lavender
  • Chamomile.

Breathe Ease Blend

This blend is helpful for respiratory ailments and relieve breathing.

  • Eucalyptus
  • Tea tree
  • Peppermint.

Muscle Relief

This blend will help to ease tight muscles and useful for temporary relief of muscular spasms. We use it in massage oil.

  • Basil
  • Marjoram
  • Lavender
  • Ginger.


Now that you have the essential oils or the blends, in sha Allah, you could use the guide here or here to the best ways of using them safely and effectively.

Insha Allah with the permission of Allah, using the essential oils can effect your emotional behaviour, health and well being.

Note: For food of thought- There are articles about health and medicine, mind and brain in Science Daily.

Thursday, 16 January 2014

Garden Blitz: May Allah grant me Jannah.

Jarrah forrest in Freemantle, Western Australia.
Let me tell you about our home. We moved into this house in January, 2011. I call it "The Green House" as it has green roof tiles. Not only does it have green roof tiles, it's floors and it's walls are all green too. On top of that it has green kitchen cabinets. I felt like it is too green inside but the outside of this house is not so green. Meaning it lacking in green lawn, trees and plants. All I can see is sand, and when the kids entered the house they are covered in dust and dirt from the sand into the house.

On May last year, Mujhee's Local Area Coordinator from Disability Services Commission asked me if we would like to apply for the Garden Blitz. I thought it was a great idea so we agreed and submitted an application. Alhamdulillah, on August we found out that we were picked for the blitz. I felt so overwhelmed like I received a part of Jannah but on the earth instead. Subhana Allah, I wonder how I would feel if I got to enter Jannah in the hereafter. It would be my goal. I'll tell you why later.

Masha Allah, on the end October and early November last year about ten hardworking and enthusiastic people from NS Projects and my lovely family came together to our humble house to do our garden. I was very grateful. When Allah loves you, He guides and helps you. I feel so blessed and can't thank them enough for their great service to us especially and the community. Now, we have to wait and see the plants growing. Here is the link for the news Canning Times, 26th November, 2013 page 32 or Grass is greener for local family - inMyCommunity - Perth, Western Australia

Our backyard.
I like green so much. Green is usually associated with nature, growth and environment. I guess that explain who I am.  I appreciate looking at the beauty of natural greenery. I respect and care for our environment. I am  passioate about improving myself. I love the green dome on the Prophet's masjid in Madinah.



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I wish Allah would grant me Jannah so I could  enter it. Why I would want to enter Jannah so much? One of many reasons I would hope to enter Jannah is that I would love to get Mujhee to smile at me when I smile at her. In Jannah, I'll get Mujhee to hug me back when I hug her. I can get her to give me kisses. I can hear her talking to me and telling me how she loves me. In Jannah, I can see her moving around without her wheelchair. In Jannah, I'll to see her sitting by herself and when she wants to change her position while she was sleeping she can do it herself. In Jannah, I would like to see her walking and running freely. I want to see her able to do whatever activities she likes in Jannah. In sha Allah one day I would see all of these.

I ask the Lord who owns Mujhee soul, to give me Jannah, ameen.

Indeed Allah is Al Wahhab, The Constant Giver of Gifts, who is given out of love and mercy and not in exchange for anything. He is Al Mujeeb, The One Who Responds. He responds to our need or our call. He is Al Ghaniy, He is not in need of anyone or anything but we are in need of Him.