In the name of Allah; the entirely merciful; the especially merciful - بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَـٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ

Wednesday, 30 May 2007

TCCP You Make My Day

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Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu

We went to The Center for Cerebral Palsy because Muje is doing hydro-therapy every Wednesday this term. I left home early to dropped my daughters to their Qur'an class.

On our way to the swimming pool Tazzie was explaining to me about the meaning of "early and late".

"Mama, if they are in the pool then we are late.", Tazzie told me.

"Is that right?", I asked her.

She said, "Yes, mama."

Then I asked her what if we are early. She said, "We are early if they are not in the pool yet."

Tazzie was happy because we were early today. I remember we were late last week. We went to the physio dept to fit Muje new tray. Now, I get it. She didn't want to be late. Then she can't be in the pool long.

No one was in the pool. We saw Kate, one of the volunteer. She said that she was sorry that I have to drive all the way. I did not understand her. Then she said that we can't use the pool because they are doing maintenance. She said one of the physio called me about cancelling the hydro, this morning but I missed it.

I said Alhamdulillah, meaning its okay with me, cause I can go to my mum's instead. She complained to the maintainers of their short notice. They end up letting us use the pool and they will do the maintenance after that. Then Kate went to call Emma, the physio who is doing the hydro today. It was only Muje and Tazzie doing the hydro. I assumed the other got the message and didn't come.

I was shocked of their willingness to stop the work only for a child like Muje. A million of thanks also to Emma and Ruth who prepared to get wet only for us even though it was cool today. It is winter in Perth. And to Kate, thank you for your advocacy of speaking up for us. I can see how genuine their work for helping other. At the end of the day I usually question what are their satisfaction of working with the disabled and their family? For a Muslim like me it is easy. It is for the sake of Allah, to please Him only and also to get the reward from Him in the Hereafter.

Subhana Allah, these people are really trying hard to served us. Look at how they make our life easy. Alhamdulillah, I am so grateful having a child who physically and intellectually disabled but is highly value in this society.

If you like to spare some change or buy a gift for Muja, click here!

Monday, 28 May 2007

Muje's New Tray.

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Alhamdulillah Muje's new tray is ready. It was made by The Center for Cerebral Palsy through fund from generous people like you. Insha Allah if you would like to donate please contact the center.I am very grateful to every single person who help towards this special equipment needed for Muje. Muje is turning 3 next months but she can only sit with support and on the special insert custom made for her. Her arms look comfortable on it and she really enjoy sitting with her arms supported on the tray. The new tray is spacious than the one before so it would fit her toys and laptop on it. Insha Allah, it will benefit her.



She also has a standing frame to help her stand. I remember when we first got this frame when she was 1 year old. She did not like it at all. She was screaming and stiffening when I put her on it. Since then I stop using it. But six months later when she was about one and a half years we tried putting her on and she loved it. Alhamdulillah now she enjoys standing on it for up to an hour. She look so tall, Masha Allah. Insha Allah next time I will post her other stuffs. I ask Allah to make her legs strong so that she would eventually walk one day, Ameen.

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Saturday, 26 May 2007

Friday, 25 May 2007

How To Make Pizza

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What you need:


1 kg plain flour
475 ml water
1 table spoon yeast
1 tea spoon salt
250 g cheese
1/2 log of polony
4 slices of pineapple
10 table spoons of tomato paste



How To Make:


1. Place the flour into a large bowl.
2. Add the salt and yeast and mix well.
3. Add water in the middle of the mixture of the flour salt and yeast.
4. Knead the dough continuously until firm using your hand.
5. Cover the dough with a cloth and keep it aside until rise.




6. Grate a block of cheese using a grater.


7. Slice the polony thinly using a sharp knife.
8. Dice the pineapple using a slightly smaller knife.


8. Flatten the risen dough onto a baking tray.
9. Bake the dough in the oven for ten minutes or until slightly brown on 220 C.

10. Spread the tomato paste on the pizza base with a spreading knife.


11. Place the toppings equally on the base.
12. Sprinkle the grated cheese evenly on the topping.


13. Bake it in the oven for at least fifteen minute or until the cheese melts.


14 Cut the pizza into small pieces and enjoy eating it.

By Kai.

Tuesday, 22 May 2007

I am extremely fear...

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Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu



Alhamdulillah I have two teenagers children and one who is turning 10 soon. I am extremely scared. I heard too many stories of parents having nightmare about their teenagers child. Complaining about their children didn't want to listen to them. Talk back. No respect to parents. Didn't wake up for fajr. Abandon hijabs. Boyfriends and girlfriends issues. Not interested in schooling. Immoral behaviour. The lists when on and on. Sadly, most of them lost in their battle. Teenager left the house. Many parents warned me that dealing with this ages are the most difficult time in their life. They said that I will only understand what they have been through if I have one.

I am doing search about understanding teenagers and Insha Allah will be posting some interesting articles that I come through.

I ask Allah to help us understand our children and give us wisdom in dealing with what ever tests He sent to us through our children. I ask Allah to make our children the way to please Him and to Jannah. I ask Allah to make our children have taqwa or fear of Allah. I ask Allah to make our children among the one who would pray for us when we die. Ameen.

MIDDLE ADOLESCENCE (ages 15-18)

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MIDDLE ADOLESCENCE (ages 15-18)



Physical Growth

  • Most youth have entered or completed puberty.
  • Less variation in levels of growth and sexual development.
  • Many youth have achieved their full adult height and other adult physical development milestones.

Cognitive Stage

  • Major broadening of thinking abilities for many youth: can think abstractly and hypothetically; can discern the underlying principles of various phenomena and apply them to new situations; and can think about the future, considering many possibilities and logical outcomes of possible events.
  • Greater perspective-taking ability can result in increased empathy and concern for others, and new interest in societal issues for many.

Moral Development

  • Less egocentric with age. Increased emphasis on abstract values and moral principles.
  • Increased ability (for some) to take another's perspective; can see the bigger societal picture and might value moral principles over laws: "principled" morality.
  • Different rates of cognitive and emotional development. For example, often advocates for specific values and violates them at the same time.

Self-Concept

  • Process of identity formation is intense. Experimentation with different roles: looks, sexuality, values, friendships, ethnicity, and especially occupations.
  • Some girls might experience obsessive dieting or eating disorders, especially those who have higher body fat, are chronically depressed, or who have highly conflicted family relationships.
  • Minority youths might explore several patterns of identity formation:
    a strong ethnic identity
    bi-cultural identity
    assimilation into the majority culture
    alienation from the majority culture

Psychological and Emotional Traits

  • For some, increased ability to empathize with others; greater vulnerability to worrying, depression, and concern for others, especially among girls.
  • Many show an increase in responsible behaviors.

Relationship to Parents and Other Adults

  • Conflicts with parents often decreases with age.
  • Improved ability to see parents as individuals and take their perspectives into account.
  • Most maintain good relationship with parents.
  • Greater interest in taking on "adult-type" responsibilities (own checking account, doing own laundry, buying own clothes, cooking meals, making repairs, etc.).
  • Commonly makes most of own decisions, preparing for eventual family.
  • Needs balance between time spent with adults and with peers.
  • Continue to benefit from some parental limits and monitoring, while often objecting to them.
  • Common conflicts over money, curfews, chores, appearance, and activities with peers.

Peer Relationships

  • Peers help youth explore and develop own identity.
  • Cross-gender friendships become more common.
  • Antisocial peer groups can increase antisocial behaviors.
  • Close friendships help youth with process of developing an individual identity separate from that of a child in a family.

Information from Middle Childhood and Adolescent Development, Oregon State University Extension Service.

EARLY ADOLESCENCE (ages 11-14)

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EARLY ADOLESCENCE (ages 11-14)



Physical Growth

  • Wide variation in onset of puberty and growth spurt.
  • Appetite increases during growth spurts and decreases markedly between them.
  • Increased need for sleep.
  • Evident sexual development, voice changes, and increased body odor are common.

Cognitive Stage

  • Individual variation between some children who are still focused on logic and others who are able to combine logical and abstract thinking.
  • Some early adolescents can't think ahead to consequences of their actions.
  • Developing new thinking skills, such as thinking more about possibilities, thinking more abstractly, thinking more about the process of thinking itself, thinking in multiple dimensions, and seeing things as relative rather than absolute.
  • Practicing new thinking skills through humor and by arguing with parents and others. Use of humor focused on satire, sarcasm, and sex (often irritating to adults).

Moral Development

  • Continuing egocentrism. Often believes self to be invulnerable to negative events.
  • Increasing ability to take perspective of others into account with own perspective.
  • In addition to concern about gaining social approval, morals begin to be based on respect for the social order and agreements between people: "law and order" morality.
  • Begins to question social conventions and re-examine own values and moral/ethical principles, sometimes resulting in conflicts with parents.

Self-Concept

  • Self-image can be challenged by body changes during puberty and social comparisons.
  • Youth begin long-term process of establishing own identity separate from family.
  • With the onset of puberty, many girls experience pressure to conform to gender stereotypes, might show less interest in math and science.
  • With puberty, normal increases in girls' body fat can impact body image and self-concept negatively for many. Both boys and girls might be concerned with skin problems, height, weight, and overall appearance.

Psychological and Emotional Traits

  • Intense self-focus.
  • Worrying about what others think about them.
  • Increased desire for privacy and sensitivity about body.
  • Frequent mood swings with changes in activities and contexts. Too much time spent alone can contribute to moodiness.
  • Height of forgetfulness.

Relationship to Parents and Other Adults

  • Changes in own and parental expectations alter previous patterns of relationships with parents, often resulting in greater conflict.
  • Greater focus on peer friendships as youth develops an identity outside of the role of a child in a family.
  • Often rebuffs physical affection (but still needs it).
  • Increased interest in making own decisions; benefits from increased opportunities to make own decisions within scope of current abilities.
  • Youth objects more often to parental limitations (but still needs some), resulting in conflict.
  • New thinking abilities are practiced in increased use of humor and arguments (or "talking back") with parents/other adults, which may result in conflicts.
  • parental listening skills and nurturing continue to be important.

Peer Relationships

  • Changes due to puberty and peer reactions commonly alter peer relationships.
  • Friendships still begin with perceived commonalities, but increasingly involve sharing of values and personal confidences.
  • Might develop cliques of three to six friends (usually same gender), providing greater sense of security. Antisocial cliques can increase antisocial behaviors.
  • Romantic crushes common, and some dating begins.

    Information from Middle Childhood and Adolescent Development, Oregon State University Extension Service.

MIDDLE CHILDHOOD (ages 8-11)

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Below are characteristics of the "typical" child during each developmental stage from middle childhood through early and middle adolescence (ages 8-18).

Children's progression through these stages is determined not only by biological growth and change, but also by temperament and personality, adult expectations, and social influences.





Physical Growth

  • Period of uneven growth of bones, muscles, and organs can result in awkward appearance.
  • Early onset of puberty can present difficulties for girls; for boys, it can result in adult expectations more appropriate for older boys.
  • Since some adolescents begin puberty during middle childhood, children need access to information about sexuality and puberty prior to the middle-school years.

Cognitive Stage

  • Logical thinking with limited ability to extend logic to abstract concepts; disdain for imaginative and illogical thinking of early childhood.
  • Accumulation of much general knowledge.
  • Gradual development of ability to apply learned concepts to new tasks.
  • Frequent interest in learning life skills (cooking, fixing things, etc.) from adults at home and else where.

Moral Development

  • Predominantly egocentric in thinking, although has developed a conscience.
  • Moves from thinking in terms of "What's in it for me" fairness (e.g., if you did this for me, I would do that for you), to wanting to gain social approval and live up to the expectations of people close to them -- "golden rule" morality (can take perspective of others, may place needs of others over own self-interest).
  • Moral thinking abilities not always reflected in children's behaviors.

Self-Concept

  • Influenced by relationships with family members, teachers, and increasingly by peers.
  • Often relatively low level of concern about physical appearance (especially boys), although this is influenced by peers as well as the media.
  • Many boys experience pressure to conform to "masculine" stereotype.
  • Girls' body image declines precipitously with puberty, especially with early onset.
  • Early onset of puberty is also associated with lower self-control and emotional stability, especially for boys.

Psychological and Emotional Traits

  • Need to develop a sense of mastery and accomplishment.
  • Frequent interest in making plans and achieving goals.
  • Learning from parents and others to do, make, and fix things.
  • Tendency to be disorganized and forgetful.

Relationship to Parents and Other Adults

  • Tends to be closely attached to parental figures.
  • Parents commonly make most decisions, affecting child, with child involvement in decisions increasing with age.
  • Most frequent conflicts over sibling quarrels and forgetfulness with respect to chores, schoolwork, and messiness, especially of child's bedroom.
  • Parental listening skills become increasingly important.
  • Parent-child communication patterns can change with puberty. Many adolescents report that (a) they can't talk with parents about issues related to sexuality, and (b) they don't get needed information in sex education courses at school.

Peer Relationships

  • Friendships often with same-gender peers, usually based on proximity, common interest/hobbies, or other perceived commonalities. Girls usually have fewer, but emotionally closer, friends than boys.
  • Formation of exclusive "clubs" and shifting peer alliances common.
  • Media influences and popular culture increasingly impact children's peer activities and relationships.

Adolescence

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Taken from Focus Adolescent Services

The major task of adolescence is to become 'your own person'. Adolescents learn to make choices and commitments, follow through with them, and stand up independently in the world.

They need to be respected for taking on these tasks. After all, we respect adults who can do these things. They are complicated and courageous actions.

But teenagers swing back and forth between dependence and independence as they work on these tasks. It's easy for parents to get frustrated. And it's easy for a parent to assume that if the teenager would simply follow the plan that makes sense to a parent, things would be all right in the end.

Life is not so simple, of course -- not for teenagers and not for adults. In many ways, adults carry on the very same tasks of growth and development themselves -- after adolescence. Adults, however, usually have a greater sense of who they are -- what they value, what they need, and how best to get what they need -- than do teenagers.

False starts, mistakes, poor judgment, or impulsive action are part of growing up. And like teenagers, adults encounter these same challenges. It's just that adults are usually better prepared to meet the challenges.

The main tasks of adolescence require teenagers to learn, and this kind of learning is not just a matter of getting the right answer. Most important is to understand the meaning of the right answer. And maybe "the right answer" is something that teenagers need to build up, responsibly, from lessons of experience. This is truly difficult work and it absolutely requires support from parents, relatives, and neighbors.

To help adolescents grow up, parents need to be aware of their own growth. Everyone who is alive is changing, growing, and developing. It's easy for a middle-aged adult to forget this fact, especially when confronted with a difficult teenage problem. But parents who are working on their own growth are in a good position to understand teenagers and to respect what they are doing in the struggle to grow up and become good people in their own right.

Saturday, 19 May 2007

Riba

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Dalil Riba Video 1 - Ust Zaharuddin Abd Rahman




Dalil Riba Video 2 - Ust Zaharuddin Abd Rahman

Tuesday, 15 May 2007

Surah Al Mulk - Mishary Rashid Alafasy

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The Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wasallam, said, "Surah Tabarak is the protector from the torment of the grave." (Al-Hakim).

Sahih Muslim Hadith 1219 Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) said: When any one of you completes the last tashahhud. he should seek refuge with Allah from four (trials). I. e. from the torment of Hell, from the torment of grave, from the trial of life and death. -and from the mischief of Masih at-Dajjal (Antichrist). This hadith has been narrated by al-Auza'i with the same chain of transmitters but with these words:" When any one of you completes the tashahhud" and he made no mention of the words" the last".

Sunday, 13 May 2007

Tribute To My Mother

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Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu



My Mother - Yusof Islam

(Teacher): “The Prophet Muhammad (sall-Allahu alayhi wa sallam) told us that we must obey Allah and His messenger at all times. But who else did he tell us to listen to, and be close to?

(Children): “My Mother!”

Who should you give your love to?
Your respect and your honour to?
Who should you pay good mind to - after Allah,
And Rasullullah?
Comes your Mother,
Who next? Your Mother
Who next? Your Mother
And then you Father

Cause who used to hold you
And clean you and clothe you?
Who used to feed you
And always be with you?
When you were sick, stay up all night,
Holding you tight?
That’s right no other, your Mother

Who should you take good care of,
Giving all your love?
Who should you think the most of - after Allah
And Rasullullah?
Comes your Mother,
Who next? Your Mother
Who next? Your Mother
And then you Father

Cause who used to hear you
Before you could talk?
Who used to hold you
Before you could walk?
And when you fell, who’d pick you up?
Clean your cut?
No one but, your Mother, your Mother

Who should you stay right close to?
Listen most to?
Never say no to – after Allah
And Rasullullah?
Comes your Mother,
Who next? Your Mother
Who next? Your Mother
And then you Father

Cause who used to hug you
And buy you new clothes?
Comb your hair and blow your nose?
And when you cried who wiped your tears?
Knows your fears? Who really cares?
Your Mother

Say Alhamdulillah,
Thank you Allah
Thank You Allah for my Mother

Thursday, 10 May 2007

Qantas 'rejected girl for too-high wheelchair'

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Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu

NEWS.com.au

Neil Hickey

October 09, 2006 01:00am

Article from: The Courier-Mail

A TOWNSVILLE woman is considering legal action against Qantas after the airline refused to carry her daughter, who has cerebral palsy, because her wheelchair was 12cm too high.

Mother-of-three Donna Pemberton said she would seek advice today about taking action in either the Human Rights and Equal Opportunity Commission or the Anti-Discrimination Tribunal.

The possible action comes after her five-year-old daughter Kate was not allowed to board a Townsville to Brisbane flight last Monday because her wheelchair was 96cm tall and a model that could not be collapsed.

"I find this totally unbelievable that you can't get a five-year-old's wheelchair on a flight," she said. "It's one of the smallest wheelchairs you'll ever see. If she can't get on the plane, what do adults do?"

Mrs Pemberton and her daughter, who is unable to speak, were preparing to fly to Brisbane so Kate could take part in a camp run by the Cerebral Palsy League of Queensland.

She was ultimately flown to and from her camp by a Virgin 737 that had no such restrictions on wheelchairs, Mrs Pemberton said.

Margaret Scott, the head of the Cerebral Palsy League of Queensland, said she would seek an explanation from Qantas.

A Qantas spokesman said last night the airline's wheelchair restrictions were "well publicised" when they were revised in December last year but confirmed the company would investigate the matter.

Wednesday, 9 May 2007

Aku Dimakamkan Hari Ini

Abu Nawas

Perlahan, tubuhku ditutup tanah,
perlahan, semua pergi meninggalkanku,
masih terdengar jelas langkah langkah terakhir mereka
aku sendirian, di tempat gelap yang tak pernah terbayang,
sendiri, menunggu keputusan...

Belahan hati, belahan jiwa pun pergi,
Semua yang di tubuhnya darahku mengalir, tak juga tinggal,
Apalah lagi sekedar tangan kanan,
kawan dekat,rekan bisnis, atau orang-orang lain,
aku bukan siapa-siapa lagi bagi mereka.

Keluargaku menangis, sangat pedih, aku pun demikian,
Kerabat menangis, tak kalah sedih, dan aku juga,
Tangan kananku menghibur mereka,
kawan dekatku berkirim bunga dan ucapan,
tetapi aku tetap sendiri, disini,
menunggu perhitungan ...

Menyesal sudah tak mungkin,
Tobat tak lagi dianggap,
dan ma'af pun tak bakal didengar,
aku benar-benar harus sendiri...

Tuhanku,
(entah dari mana kekuatan itu datang,
setelah sekian lama aku tak lagi dekat dengan-Nya),
jika kau beri aku satu lagi kesempatan,
jika kau pinjamkan lagi beberapa hari milik-Mu,
beberapa hari saja... Aku harus berkeliling,
memohon ma'af pada mereka,
yang selama ini telah merasakan zalimku,
yang selama ini sengsara karena aku,
yang tertindas dalam kuasaku.
yang selama ini telah aku sakiti hati nya
yang selama ini telah aku bohongi

Aku harus kembalikan, semua harta kotor ini,
yang kukumpulkan dengan wajah gembira,
yang kukuras dari sumber yang tak jelas,yang kumakan,
bahkan yang kutelan.
Aku harus tuntaskan janji janji palsu yg sering ku umbar dulu

Dan Tuhan,beri lagi aku beberapa hari milik-Mu,
untuk berbakti kepada ayah dan ibu tercinta ,
teringat kata kata kasar dan keras yg menyakitkan hati mereka ,
maafkan aku ayah dan ibu ,
mengapa tak kusadari betapa besar kasih sayang mu
beri juga aku waktu,untuk berkumpul dengan calon dan anakku,
untuk sungguh sungguh beramal soleh ,
Aku sungguh ingin bersujud dihadap-Mu,
bersama mereka ... begitu sesal diri ini
karena hari hari telah berlalu tanpa makna
penuh kesia sia an
kesenangan yg pernah kuraih dulu,
tak ada artinya ama sekali mengapa ku sia sia saja ,
waktu hidup yg hanya sekali ituandai ku bisa putar ulang waktu itu ...

Aku dimakamkan hari ini,
dan semua menjadi tak terma'afkan,
dan semua menjadi terlambat,
dan aku harus sendiri,
untuk waktu yang tak terbayangkan ...

Sunday, 6 May 2007

Disabled girl is frozen in time

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Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu

News.com.au

By Chris Ayres in Los Angeles

January 05, 2007 12:00am
Article from: The Australian

HER name is Ashley X, and she is a little girl who will never grow up.

Until New Year's Day, not even her first name was known. Ashley was a faceless case study, cited in a paper by two doctors at Seattle Children's Hospital as they outlined a treatment so radical it brought allegations of eugenics, of creating a 21st-century Frankenstein's monster, of maiming a child for the sake of convenience.

The reason for the controversy is this: three years ago, when Ashley began to display early signs of puberty, her parents told doctors to remove her uterus, appendix and still-forming breasts, then treat her with high doses of oestrogen to stunt her growth.

In other words, Ashley was sterilised and frozen in time, for ever to remain a child. She was six.

Ashley, daughter of two professionals in the Seattle area, never had much hope of a normal life.

Afflicted with a severe brain impairment known as static encephalopathy, she cannot walk, talk, keep her head up in bed or even swallow food. Her parents argued that keeping her small was the best way to improve the quality of her life, not to make life more convenient for them.

Because of her small size, the parents say, Ashley will receive more care from people who will be able to carry her: "Ashley will be moved and taken on trips more frequently and will have more exposure to activities and social gatherings ... instead of lying down in her bed staring at TV all day long."

By remaining a child, they say, Ashley will have a better chance of avoiding everything from bed sores to pneumonia - and the removal of her uterus means she will never have a menstrual cycle or risk developing uterine cancer.

Because Ashley was expected to have a large chest size, her parents say removing her breast buds, including the milk glands (while keeping the nipples intact), will save her further discomfort while avoiding fibrocystic growth and breast cancer. They also feared that large breasts could put Ashley at risk of sexual assault.

The case was approved by the hospital's ethics committee in 2004, which agreed that because Ashley could never reproduce voluntarily she was not being subjected to forced sterilisation, a form of racial cleansing promoted in the 1920s and known as eugenics. However, the case of Ashley X was not made public, and as a result no legal challenges were made.

Ashley's doctors, Daniel Gunther and Douglas Diekema, wrote in their paper for the October issue of the Archives of Pediatrics and Adolescent Medicine that the treatment would "remove one of the major obstacles to family care and might extend the time that parents with the ability, resources and inclination to care for their child at home might be able to do so".

The paper inspired hundreds of internet postings: many supportive, some furious. "I find this offensive if not perverse," read one. "Truly a milestone in our convenience-minded society."

It was the critical comments that finally provoked Ashley's father to respond. While remaining anonymous, he posted a remarkable 9000-word blog entry at 11pm on New Year's Day, justifying his decision.

The posting includes links to photographs of Ashley, in which the faces of other family members, including her younger sister and brother, have been blanked out. "Some question how God might view this treatment," he wrote. "The God we know wants Ashley to have a good quality of life and wants her parents to be diligent about using every resource at their disposal ... to maximise her quality of life."

Ashley's father went on to describe how her height is now expected to remain at about 1.3m and her weight at 34kg.

The medical profession is divided. "I think most people, when they hear of this, would say this is just plain wrong," wrote Jeffrey Brosco, of the University of Miami. "It is a complicated story ... (But) high-dose oestrogen therapy to prevent out-of-home placement simply creates a new Sophie's Choice for parents to confront.

"If we as a society want to revise the nature of the harrowing predicament that these parents face, then more funds for home-based services, not more medication, is what is called for."

The Times

Friday, 4 May 2007

Yummy Foood

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Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu




Yesterday, I cooked Lontong. My dear husband call it Lontong Sayur. My children love it sooooo much. It is rice cake served with vegetables, tempe and taufu in coconut cream soup and chili prawn or sambal.

Wednesday, 2 May 2007

Day Out.

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Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu

It was raining today, alhamdulillah, so I decided to leave the house early to drop H and K. They are attending Qur'an Memorisation and Tilawah, Tajweed and Tafseer class every Wednesday at a sister house.

After that, we went to The Centre Of Cerebral Palsy because M has her hydro-therapy. K, one of the volunteer took her in. She was doing really well in the pool. Her muscles were so relaxed in the water. She tried so hard keeping her head in the middle, kicking her feet and crawling on a floating mat, Masha Allah.

While M was doing the hydro, T and I went to get some foods and drink. I read Nova and The Perth Child Newspaper while eating. When we were back by the pool T was upset because she couldn't go in the pool. I didn't let her in because M will be out of the pool in 10 minutes. She calm down after I promised that she can go in the pool next week, Alhamdulillah.

Then we went to physiotherapy dept for measuring M tray. Alhamdulillah she received the fund for a new tray to attached to the insert. Insha Allah it will be ready in 2 weeks.

On the way home, I bought take away for lunch from Sarindo before pick up H and K.

Tuesday, 1 May 2007

We Belong To Allah

Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim
Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu

Inna lilahi wa inna ilahi rajiun (We belong to Allah, and to Allah we will return), my beloved sister, step mother in law passed away last Friday. Masha Allah she was a lovely lady and I remember last time when I saw her about 7 years ago, she never stopped making me laugh. My family are very sad to hear the news. We make du'a that Allah forgive her and have mercy on her soul. Ameen. We advise my sister and her family to be patience with this test and remind ourselves the reality of death.